The best piece of advice I've been given is, see myself there. Not really realizing how powerful that statement is, I took it in but didn't own that concept for a long time. Preoccupied with the many distractions that present themselves along the way, "there" became this illusive place. With no clear destination, and getting nowhere fast, I thought, where exactly is there. And if I'm going to get there how?
It's funny, I hear many people say they want more opportunity, or they feel lost (which I can relate to because I've been there many times), or they don't have time. So I decided to question every time I've said these things myself. I also challenged myself to own up to how much of me feeling that way was my fault. My honest answer is whenever I feel lack of opportunity or lost or lack of time it's because I hadn't yet taken ownership of that area in my life. If ever I was going to make it "there," I'd have to 1) be clear about where that destination is, and 2) be deliberate about how I'm going to get there. Now by no means does that mean I'll have an answer for every pitfall along the way, but I'd better have a framework that makes it obvious when I'm not on track.
It's strange when you find yourself in a place that seems to be carefully crafted together, like one thing happening after another in such a way that it confirms you're on your way to something special. This is exactly how I feel at this moment. And I feel this way because I decided to own my life and not let the things I decide to do own me. Maintaining balance and control.
I'm somewhat addicted to podcasts, I'm actually planning to start my own very soon! While listening to This is Your Life with Michael Hyatt (I love this podcast), I was introduced to Michael's book (coauthored with Daniel Harkavy) Living Forward.
Sounds odd but after getting into this book, I knew it was no coincidence it found me at this stage in my life. It provided me with clarity and validated what I believe as well as actions I know I need to take. Most importantly this books intention goes far beyond its pages, it asks you to hold yourself accountable. It asks you to take action in the form of creating a physical document, a life plan.
Now, if you want to know what a life plan entails, you've gotta buy the book! I promise you won't regret it. So I say all this to say everyday "there" becomes less illusive and more realistic. My goal is to own every single part of my day, to be calculated, and present, to cut out all things that don't add value. When you can see yourself at a particular destination but you struggle getting there; look to yourself, most likely there's something you could be doing more of or become better at, hell most likely you're doing a lot of things you shouldn't be!
It's up to YOU and only you. If you're not quite where you wanna be, see yourself there, own it.