The "Extra" Mom
So here's the deal, when I was growing up I remember the hip moms who were always dressed nicely picking up their kids from school, and I'd think that's what kinda mom I'm gonna be when I'm older. Fast forward to now being a mom of two, I know what a skill it is to get up in the morning and actually care about what you look like. It's definitely not as easy as it looks, especially for working moms. While there are days I just can't, and I throw on a mix of anything I can find, for the most part I get up and pay attention to what I look like. Really, I was this way before I had children and nothing has changed, I've talked a little about this before.
I'm an advocate for moms looking however they feel comfortable, but I am not an advocate for moms not caring or feeling like they can't make time for themselves. I love my kids with everything in me, but as moms we have to love ourselves too. And this goes further than clothes I'm just using an example that resonates with me. I'm a firm believer that how I look impacts how I feel and how I make others feel. And by others I mean my family. So it's important to look the way that reflects my mood and intention. Some days are casual and other days a little more fancy, but no day goes by where I'm not aware of how I'm presenting myself.
So all those years ago, seeing those moms was embedded in my brain but until I became a parent I did't attach the importance or fully understand how important it is to look good as a mom. I don't need to get into all we do as moms, let's just say it's a lot (*cough* we do everything). There are many of times I've walked into Chase's school and have gotten looks from other moms. Which is why I titled this post The "Extra" Mom, while many moms are super friendly, there are some that look at me like I'm the extra mom. I'm like let me live geezzz I'm not hurting anybody, I just won't sacrifice getting dressed. Yes it's me in a full fur but hey it's cold outside ha! Seriously though, it doesn't bother me at all and here's why, my kids love me for me and that's exactly who I'm going to be. Not to mention the Mr's in our lives need a little visual interest. It's in their DNA lol, getting dressed and managing things the way we do gives them bragging rights. The best part about that is we're doing it for ourselves, hahaha it's just a bonus for them I guess.
So here are 5 tips that keep me looking my best all while navigating through motherhood:
- Speak to yourself in a positive way and dedicate a portion of your day to getting yourself together as opposed to everyone else
- Put self care into your budget (this is just as important as anything else you pay for)
- Plan time to get away for "me time" and reflection so you can recharge
- Go on dates with the Mr. nothing like quality time to blow your head up. Like LL said "I need love" make sure you get that
- Get a hobby (or start a business) doing something you truly love and enjoy
These things have helped me pull through a lot of times I was on the verge of a mommy meltdown. This post was also to showcase this fur and these boots even though it's been too warm to wear them and enjoy, actually now the weather is finally turning. I wore this anyway and so maybe I am extra...and I'm ok with that!
Hopefully this inspires you mamas to show up and show out! Life is short so why not look great while we navigate through this motherhood thing xx
Photography by Ksenia